Mum urges kids not to ‘suffer in silence’ after son, 15, took his own life

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A mum whose teenage son took his own life has urged other youngsters not to “suffer in silence”.

Tragic Cayden Lee Brown was just 15 when he was found dead at his family home in Blackburn on January 15.

The keen skateboarder was found by his mum Julie-Anne, who described her son as “fun-loving and caring” following an inquest in Clitheroe today.

“I never want anyone else to go through what we went through,” she told Lancashire Live.

During the inquest, Michael Singleton, the senior coroner for Blackburn, Hyndburn and the Ribble Valley, heard how Cayden had made references to his suicidal intentions in the weeks prior to his death.

Nicola O’Toole, assistant headteacher at Cayden’s school in Blackburn, said he was ‘one of the best attendees’ who showed an interest in music.

“He never caused us any problems at all,” she added.

However, last July concerns were raised when Cayden had talked about death.

After one incident one of his fellow pupils said Cayden had sent a message saying he wanted to hurt himself.

Miss O’Toole said: “Cayden was talked to about the safe-guarding team.”

Cayden’s mum described how he had told her following the incident in July that he was ‘feeling low but it was a one-off’.

“He promised he would never say anything like that again; I said ‘I’ll take you to the doctors’ but he point blank refused,” she said during the inquest.

“There was nothing to suggest he was thinking about taking his own life.”

In the week leading up to Cayden’s death, teachers said his behaviour at school had been normal.

The coroner asked Mrs O’Toole: “Was there anything that caused concern?”

“No, nothing at all,” the assistant headteacher replied.

Facebook messages also showed Cayden had confided: “No-one likes me.”

His mum Julie-Anne said she had talked to Cayden and told him: “I said I am always here.

“There was nothing to suggest he was thinking of taking his own life.”

The inquest also heard from Detective Inspector Victoria Kane who told how Cayden had sent a message to another boy in the weeks before he was found dead. The messages were only uncovered by police following his death.

“I don’t want to suffer anymore,” Cayden had said.

“The day I ain’t gonna go into school is the day I have found the right time.”

An examination of Cayden’s phone after he died revealed he had searched for suicide methods.

“My thought is that he had it planned,” his mum said.

Cayden’s sketch book also revealed handwritten notes he had penned to Chester Bennington, the lead singer with Linkin Park, who was found dead in 2017.

Cayden had written: “I will see you soon.”

After his death, and after looking at messages Cayden had sent in the week before his death, Cayden’s mum said he had talked as if ‘he knew he was going to do it’.

“I know my son,” she added.

The coroner concluded Cayden had taken his own life.

After the inquest Cayden’s mum was keen to address young people who were suffering from mental health issues.

“Never be scared of speaking out, get help,” she said.

“We are always here if anyone needs to talk to us. I would never want any other person to go through what we went through. He suffered in silence.”

In January, the family released the following statement paying tribute to Cayden: “On the 15th of January, Our beautiful 15-year old son Cayden passed away suddenly at his home.

“Outside school, he was a very active boy who was dedicated to skateboarding and music spending most of his time with friends mastering new tricks and perfecting music on his guitar.

“He was such a loving caring person who always jumped at the chance of helping others and took great pride doing so.

“A very bright and beautiful boy who loved his brother so much, they were inseparable.

“Our son will always live on in his brother and we will always remember his smiling face.”